Lately, I have been getting huge amounts of stress at the thought of checking into my blog.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my blog, hell, I adore it.
Our relationship has been going on for almost a year now.
When we started it was love at first sight. Then came the euphoria of trying out new things, exploring, learning – then things start to settle down.
This was expected, I knew we would get comfortable, my blog and I.
We have been progressing at a great pace, getting readers, adding subscribers along the way.
So what’s wrong, you ask me.
A-List Wannabe Blogs (Most of them)
What is wrong is when I see “big blogs”, which are clearly at a higher rung of the ladder, saying things like how they skyrocketed their subscriber count from few to few thousand in under a few short months.
The number “8 months” is quite popular in this regard and is quoted quite a lot. And they all seem to have 5k, 10k, 15k subscribers. All gained apparently well within one year.
I look at my blog and look at theirs.
Frankly, I am doing everything I need to do. I am freak learner. I am always educating myself and always working to improve things.
Progress is slow, but it;s steady. That is just fine with me.
Slowly, though, doubts start to creep in. I start wondering, how come I am still sitting on a few hundred, not even a thousand subscribers yet.
But most of all I feel depressed. When these blogs are meant to inspire me, they are doing the opposite.
I am second guessing myself, every step of the way. So much so that I was dreading even logging into my blog to see that nobody has viewed it.
And I still get a pretty decent amount of comments, so I must be doing something right.
So I am doing something I should have done long time ago.
I am letting go.
Say Your Goodbyes
Make a list of all the blogs you follow.
Divide them into three groups.
1. The ones you learn from – these people are your teachers, your mentors. Here you will see most A-list bloggers you follow.
2. The blogs that seem the next step up – The A-list wannabes.
3. The ones who are in the same boat as you – you can keep all of these ones if you like.
Look closely at the middle group. This is the most dangerous one.
If there are any blogs, who make you doubt yourself, cut them.
Any blogs who make you depressed? Out they go.
Blogs who give you any grief? Cut, cut, cut.
Instead find blogs who are not necessarily huge but who are going down the same path. These will keep you truly inspired.
Tighten Your List
You don’t need to subscribe to 250 blogs.
Seriously. Choose the best.
How many marketing, SEO, traffic generation blogs does one need?
Not many. Stick with 2-3.
How many personal development blogs?
Not many either. If you are following 39, you need help. Go see a shrink instead.
How many entertainment blogs do you need to follow in your niche?
Aha. Not every single blog. This is what I have been doing, and it has done my head in.
I am a writer. And I am cutting down.
You go with a number you are comfortable with. Don’t feel pressurized to follow every blogging blog or writing blog if you are a writer.
Pick the ones that make you feel great – about your blog.
Blogging is Hard
Follow those who tell you that it has taken them a tremendous amount of work and perseverance to reach where they are.
Follow those who tell you that blogging takes time.
Follow the ones who don’t go around saying how they made it big in – you guessed it – 8 months.
Otherwise, it’s just gonna get awkward.
So tonight I have a date with my blog again.
We are gonna sit down, and start again.
This time, I am savouring the time I spend on my blog. I am going to go back to why I started blogging – for the love of writing, exploring and connecting.
I will get to the big leagues – one day I will.
And I am happy to take my own sweet time.